lessons for girls

This year I am teaching a weekly class for girls at the community centre. It's sort of a manners, makeup, hair how-to and what-not-to-wear type of thing.

As you may have guessed from the title, I have become very disgusted recently with the images that are sent to young girls in the media. Not only as the mother of a young girl, but as a girl myself. So I decided it was time to do something about it.

Sometimes we will talk about makeup, hair and nails. Who doesn't love to talk about makeup, hair and nails? Tonight we are talking about nosy questions, how to leave a message on an answering machine... and of course we will be eating a fantastic imaginary meal with paper plates and plastic cutlery! Before we go home, each girl will write a thank you card.

If anyone has any suggestions about what you wish you'd been told when you were twelve, please let me know.


crazycatladymel said...

Hmmm. I'll have to think on suggestions for you. All I remember was taking a "how to be a lady" class at my church, under duress (b/c I was a tomboy), and honestly learning nothing useful.

However, that being said, I love the idea of something like this now, because it doesn't seem to be about conforming to one particular idea, but about how to behave in certain social situations... something many young girls do not seem to know, and lord knows that the "role models" they have are rarely qualified.

When my goddaughter was 11 and started her period, I took her shopping for her own products. I gave her the $, but she had to push the cart through the store, put the stuff on the counter and pay (I knew girls in college that couldn't buy their own pads and didn't want her to be one of them). I don't know if this would fit, but it was something that her mother wasn't interested in doing.

crazycatladymel said...

Maybe you could check out what's covered in this book? I don't know what all is covered, so this might not be appropriate.

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Saucy said...

Thanks Mel, that book looks awesome. I will get hold of one ASAP.

DivaDeb said...

Things that twelve year old girls need to learn....hmmmmmnnn...

"Boys of ANY age want ONLY one thing. Keep your lips, hands, and all other body parts away from them. Until you are at least....20. If you want love and hugs and cuddles, get a cat."

I was a teenage pregnancy.
So was my first child.
Thank heavens, none of my girls ever had to deal with that.

Maybe they actually LISTENED to me??!!!! ;o)

Cassandra said...

When I was 11 my mother sent me to "White Gloves and Party Manners". I LOVED it! I still remember the teacher instructing us on how to set a table, how to sit properly with our legs crossed at the ankles, and how to answer the telephone. I think the make-up classes are very valuable. Many girls don't know how to put it on, so they end up just putting EVERYTHING on at once. I am definitely a proponent of the less is more philosophy.

michelleb. said...

Several years ago a young pagent queen was doing community service and offered an Etiquette class for girls. My mom had always said that if there was ever a class, she would pay for my 3 gurlz to go. And she did. The gurlz learned alot and had fun doing so. They really loved their instructor and talk about her to this day.